Polyamory: Lots of Sex, Even More Scheduling – WSJ

Pursuing multiple romantic, emotional or sexual relationships, with the permission of all involved known as consensual non-monogamy is increasingly out in the open, as adherents tout what they see as the benefits, such as more opportunities for emotional support and connection as well as sex. 

There are challenges, too, from the mundane calendars to the existential. First, there s dating, just when you thought you d put that hell behind you. It s expensive: restaurants, hotels, cute outfits and even condoms add up. The scheduling could make a military planner sweat. More relationships mean more drama, from in-laws to breakups. Not to mention the lack of sleep.

I know what you re thinking: Who has time for this?

Plenty of people, it turns out. Twenty-two percent of Americans say they have engaged in consensual non-monogamy, which is also sometimes called ethical non-monogamy, at some point in their life, according to a nationally representative study by researchers at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. That s almost the same percentage 23% as people living in the U.S. who have a bachelor s degree as their highest degree.

Many more think about doing it. Research on sexual fantasies shows that nearly one-third of people in monogamous relationships report that being in some type of an open relationship is part of their favorite sexual fantasy. Eighty percent of those people said they d act on the opportunity given the chance.

via www.wsj.com

Terrible idea. One person is plenty.